Emotional Safety is Crucial for Us and for Our Kids

Remember that your kid is a fellow human being. Yes you brought him/her into this world. But they are still a separate human being, with their own ideas, thoughts, dreams, fears, feelings, and life. Look at them as such. See them for who they really are.

How the Covert Narcissist Plays Rejection, Abandonment, and Abuse

The covert narcissist plays out rejection, abandonment, and abuse in extremely discreet and manipulative ways. It is so hidden that it takes years to see, if you ever see it at all. As their victim, you feel beaten down and empty and don’t even know why. Open your eyes and break out of their game!

The Distorted View of an Abuse Victim

When we have experienced abuse in our life, our perspective of reality suffers. Abuse comes in many forms and from many different types of relationships. It can be physical abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse, narcissistic abuse, child abuse, spousal abuse, and so on. When any of these happen, life gets blurry for the victim, and you often don’t even realize it. Seeing life from outside of your own perspective is a large part of the healing process.

I Survived the Day of Divorce from a Narcissist

I still have a long ways to go in the journey of healing, but I do feel that I am off to a great start. I will take this in baby steps. I feel motivation returning and eagerness to enjoy life again. I now begin the journey of the rest of my life!!

No matter where you are in this process, I desire to walk the journey with you. We may all go through it differently, but we ALL  need support by our side. I had people I could lean on every step of the way. I feel blessed by that. I will be that support for anyone who needs a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen, or a reassuring voice that you are not crazy.

If I can do this, so can you!!

Others have it much worse than me, shouldn’t I just be grateful?

It is so easy to talk ourselves into staying in a painful and abusive relationship for way too long. Just because someone else may be in a worse situation than you does not mean that you shouldn’t tend to your own pain and get help.

Don't Over-Compensate for the Narcissistic Parent

When our co-parent is abusing our children in any way, it is extremely easy to over-compensate by trying to erase all the bad feelings in our child. Our intentions are good. We know that those bad feelings are coming from the way they are being treated. So if we can erase those bad feelings, then maybe we can erase the damage they are suffering. However the results may not be quite what we hope for.

What Happens when a Narcissist Tries to “Fix” that Broken Relationship?

When does a relationship with a narcissist get worse? When that narcissist decides that they must “fix” the relationship. When they decide to “take charge” of making things right. This is a disaster! This is emotional abuse at its best.

Narcissists: Is it okay to love them and still walk away?

Narcissistic relationships are the most confusing things. The emotional roller coaster you find yourself on is unbelievable and crazy-making. At one point, this person was the love of your life. And you still see glimpses of that from time to time. Yet the abuse between those glimpses is devastating. Your heart feels like a ping pong ball ricocheting back and forth. In the midst of this chaos, please know that it is okay to have feelings for them and yet to still walk away!

How to Turn the Table on a Narcissist

Narcissists absolutely hate for the other person to be right. Especially if that person is a spouse, significant other, parent or child. Use their own desire to always be right and to always prove you wrong against them. Anticipate their irrational reactions before they happen and call them out on it ahead of time.