Covert narcissistic abuse is a hidden abuse. It is invisible to the world around us. Our family and friends don't see it. Our neighbors don't see it. Our churches don't see it. Our therapists don't see it. The courts don't see it. And way too often, the victims don't see it either. It is a gradual stealing of your right and ability to matter in this world. It is such tiny steps that it is not seen by the victim for years, decades or even a lifetime.
Two Simple and Effective Tools for Healing the Pain of Narcissistic Abuse
How the Covert Narcissist Plays Rejection, Abandonment, and Abuse
I Survived the Day of Divorce from a Narcissist
I still have a long ways to go in the journey of healing, but I do feel that I am off to a great start. I will take this in baby steps. I feel motivation returning and eagerness to enjoy life again. I now begin the journey of the rest of my life!!
No matter where you are in this process, I desire to walk the journey with you. We may all go through it differently, but we ALL need support by our side. I had people I could lean on every step of the way. I feel blessed by that. I will be that support for anyone who needs a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen, or a reassuring voice that you are not crazy.
If I can do this, so can you!!
Others have it much worse than me, shouldn’t I just be grateful?
Don't Over-Compensate for the Narcissistic Parent
When our co-parent is abusing our children in any way, it is extremely easy to over-compensate by trying to erase all the bad feelings in our child. Our intentions are good. We know that those bad feelings are coming from the way they are being treated. So if we can erase those bad feelings, then maybe we can erase the damage they are suffering. However the results may not be quite what we hope for.
What Happens when a Narcissist Tries to “Fix” that Broken Relationship?
From Victim to Survivor to Victor
When I Told my Covert Narcissist that I was Done
How did I know it was time to file for divorce?
Why do narcissists give only misery?
How to Turn the Table on a Narcissist
Narcissists absolutely hate for the other person to be right. Especially if that person is a spouse, significant other, parent or child. Use their own desire to always be right and to always prove you wrong against them. Anticipate their irrational reactions before they happen and call them out on it ahead of time.
I Can’t Fix This!
Narcissists and Emotions
Narcissists seem to have absolutely no emotional intelligence, inside themselves or with the world around them. They continuously stomp all over your feelings and don’t show an ounce of care about it. They can talk harshly and callously one minute and be confused as to why you don’t want to make love with them the very next minute. The confusion this creates is crazy-making!
Learning Life Lessons as a Mother
Nothing in life has taught me more about myself than being a mom. It is the most challenging thing I have ever done. I have loved it and hated it, and both often at the same time. I used to say, “Moms get the worst fussing, but we get the best loving too.” And this was before I knew the word narcissism.