This very thought can keep you hooked in a bad relationship for years!
I used to think to myself, “It would not matter who I was with, there will always be problems, disagreements, issues. It could be far worse. I can stick this out.” I trusted my ability to endure these unexplained rages and circular conversations. Though I did not know that phrase at the time. I only knew that these conversations were incredibly painful, unproductive, and extremely lonely!
While it is true that all marriages have struggles, not all marriages are like this! In healthy relationships, partners don’t gaslight and manipulate each other. When people in a healthy relationship have a disagreement, they find reconciliation. They take mutual blame and meet in the middle. They have give and take!
Not when you are with a covert narcissist!! You don’t get an inch! Ever! You will never find reconciliation and resolution. You don’t walk away from these conversations feeling closer, safer, more trusting, and more at peace.
So while it may be true that all relationships have issues, this does not mean that you have to endure abuse of any sort. Abuse is abuse, and abuse is wrong! See it for what it is, and don’t use the excuse that all relationships have their struggles. Is this the way you really want to live?