You have been conditioned to live in thick fog. You have been made to believe that they are better at everything than you and know more about everything than you. You have been conditioned to care for all of their needs and feelings and to accept a complete disregard for your own needs and feelings. You have been taught to fear their anger, silence, and rejection. You have been taught that it is your job to care for their every whim. You have been made to feel guilty and responsible for any and every bad thing that has ever happened or ever will happen.
I have news for you. None of this is true!! They are not better at everything than you. They do not know more about everything than you. It is not your job to care for their every need. You should never accept the total disregard for your own needs and feelings. You do not need to fear their anger. You do not need to care for their every whim. And you are not responsible for everything! You are allowed to walk this Earth in peace and happiness.
Get your eyes out of the FOG, out of the Fear, Obligation and Guilt!!
Fear - You are allowed to live without fear. I know that facing this abuse is frightful. The unknown future in front of you on this journey can certainly be scary, but you are definitely not alone. Many have gone in front of you, many are going with you, and many will come behind you. You are stronger than you know!!
Obligation - It is not your job or duty to “build” or “fix” them or this relationship. They are an adult, and the responsibility for them lies with them. Their choices, their attitudes, their actions, and their words are NOT your fault or responsibility. You are responsible only for you.
Guilt - You are allowed to be human, to just be you. No one made the rule that you had to be a superhero. You do not need to be perfect, and in fact cannot be. It is okay to not be the best at everything or to not have all the answers. Take the guilt you feel and throw it away again and again.
Keep returning to that epiphany of walking the Earth in peace. That gift of a peaceful life is every bit as present for you as it is for anyone and everyone else. You do deserve it. You are worthy of it. And you CAN have it. Hang onto this epiphany as if to your very own lifeline.