The rules of life simply do not apply to a covert narcissist. They carry huge amounts of entitlement, superiority, and hypocrisy.
Covert narcissists are extremely entitled. They want what they want, when they want it, and how they want it. When they ask a question, they want an answer in the specific format that they want and anything else will make them mad. For me, he always wanted a yes or no answer. It didn’t matter if I had something else to say about it that made the answer more complicated than that. This just made him mad, and he would yell, “Just answer yes or no!” Like I have said before, normal conversation just does not happen with a covert narcissist.
Rules of the road don’t apply to them. They can drive however they want, whenever and wherever they want. BUT, no one else is allowed this. They are the first to complain and react when someone does the exact same things that they do.
My covert narcissist husband would pull out in front of people. Then when they rode on his bumper, flashed their lights, or had any other reaction, he became extremely mad. He would brake check them, flip them off, and glare at them when they drove by. And yet, when someone pulled out in front of him, he would speed up to make it more of a problem. He would ride on their bumper, flashing his lights, honking the horn, flipping them off, and yelling. He would even stay on their bumper for a while, making everyone nervous.
Covert narcissists are entitled to what they want, but they do not give space for anyone else to get what they want, unless of course, this serves a purpose for them as well. If it serves value to them, they will help you to get what you want. But when it no longer serves a purpose for them, they will be the first to turn against whatever it was, no matter how you feel about it.